We excel at keeping our commitments to others.
Especially women, we’ll move heaven and earth to follow through on what we said we’d do for our family, clients, friends, and partners. Even if it means running ourselves into the ground, we show up.
But when it comes to the promises we make to ourselves?
That’s where we tend to break down.
I’ve lived this pattern all of my adult life.
In my marriage and in my past business partnership, I put everyone else first. I took care of their needs, their goals, and their problems. On the surface, it looked like I was holding it all together. Behind the scenes, I was drowning. My taxes piled up. Debt accumulated. My physical and mental health took a back seat. And still, I pressed on, making sure everyone else was good.
Until I realized: I wasn’t.
When I started rebuilding and building my coaching business, I had to face those patterns head-on. I had to admit the truth—that I was breaking my most important commitments: the ones I had made to myself.
And here’s the shift:
When I finally chose to honor those agreements—my health, my energy, my own financial clarity—everything else elevated.
I became a better coach.
I became a better mother.
I became a better friend, a better leader, a better me.
Because when you honor yourself first, you don’t just fill your own cup—you expand your capacity to pour into others from a place of wholeness instead of depletion.
So here’s the invitation:
Take one commitment you’ve been pushing aside—the workout, the journal practice, the financial cleanup, the project that matters only to you—and honor it.
Not someday. Not when things settle down. Now.
Because when you show yourself that your word matters to you, it changes everything.